For at least the past ten years, going home for the holidays has become increasingly problematic. I’ve dealt with my ambivalence by using a relational strategy for the holidays that allows me to be present with my family, but not really. This strategy has not gone unnoticed by family. The result has been a growing pattern of disappointment expressed in pointed sarcasm and at times even tears. My response has been what one might expect – I deflect the criticism through a well-structured narrative that sounds like a legal brief.… Continue reading HOLIDAY RELATIONAL STYLE